The human being is not designed to live as a hermit – we are dependent on the existence of others in our lives.
Finding the right people to surround us is quite a tricky and possibly a life-long task. We need to invest time and energy until we can figure out if it is worthy or not. We are obliged to discover whether our vis-à-vis will also stand at our side in the dark times, how serious they are, and if we can trust them?
For a working relationship, trust is mandatory. To build it up, we put ourselves in a status. And therein we assume to be nearly as crucial for the life of the others as they are for themselves. We hypothesize that they would make an effort to bring a smile to our lips when we feel depressed. We expect loyalty and assume that they make sacrifices to help us. And of course, we would also secretly expect that they would carry us on their shoulders if we could not walk anymore.
Probably, we would come from the conclusion that all of our “extraordinary people” would fulfill the favorable characteristics which we attribute to a working relationship. In the end, it was us, that believe to be in the right position, who decided whom to let in the exclusive circle.
The truth is that the world is full of people with empty words. They promise whatever suits the situation and their own best interest. Their trick is to hide behind their invisible masks. Whenever they would need it to get their benefit, they simply adjust their behavior. Certainly, they laugh with us, chill or party with us. But they are the quickest to run away the moment life becomes a bit more complicated. To understand that others outsmarted and rapidly replaced us hurts even more.
But as severe and painful these experiences are, they also show us who really cares. And sometimes it can be surprising who unexpectedly shows up to comfort us while we are licking our wounds.